How to Perform a Prostate Massage

How to Perform a Prostate Massage

Unlocking Pleasure: Exploring Prostate Massage for Everyone

Regardless of your sexual orientation, prostate massage can be a profoundly pleasurable experience during both partnered sex and solo play. Those who've experienced a prostate orgasm can attest to its unique and full-body sensation, which can be achieved by inserting a finger, a penis, or a toy into the anus, thanks to the prostate's distinctive location and its role in sexual pleasure.

Understanding the Prostate

The prostate is a sensitive, walnut-shaped gland primarily responsible for producing the fluid that nourishes and transports sperm.

Locating the Prostate

Located about two inches inside the anus, just below the bladder and surrounding the urethra, the prostate can be found by inserting a clean, well-lubed finger inside the anus, pointing towards the belly. Using a latex or nitrile glove can be helpful, especially for first-time exploration.

The Legendary Prostate Orgasm

Prostate orgasms are often compared to G-spot orgasms for those with a penis. While penile orgasms are also pleasurable, prostate orgasms activate spasms in the pelvic floor that feel much deeper, radiating pleasure throughout the body. Interestingly, you do not need to be erect to experience one.

Giving a Prostate Massage with a Finger

Whether giving one to a partner or yourself, follow these steps:

  1. Trim nails and wash hands thoroughly.
  2. Ensure a normal bowel movement for peace of mind.
  3. Apply plenty of lube to the anal opening and finger. Most people find prostate massage if there is also penis stimulation, so if possible, also start that too. 
  4. Insert the index finger slowly, giving the sphincter muscles time to relax. Try going up to the first knuckle. As penis stimulation continues, try then inserting up to second knuckle (very slowly). 
  5. Listen for feedback from your partner. If all is good, go up to third knuckle. 
  6. If all is still good, keep with going finger fully inserted. Feel around for a rounded lump (thats the prostate). If you still can't find it, keep contact with the front wall.
  7. Apply gentle pressure to the prostate using the PAD of the finger.
  8. Massage the prostate in a circular or back-and-forth motion with the pad of the finger. 

Patience is key, as prostate orgasms may take longer to achieve than penile orgasms, especially the first time. Enjoy the buildup of pleasure leading to a powerful orgasm. Make sure the receiver is breathing deeply.

Using a Toy for Prostate Massage

Prostate massage toys can definitely enhance your experience. Using toys are almost a guarantee to start having prostate orgasms because the vibration helps your sphincter muscles relax. Plus, the toy itself reaches even deeper into the body. Of all prostate massage toys, I am a HUGE fan of Back It Up and this is why: 

  1. It's easy to hold so that you can guide it wherever it needs to go
  2. The internal piece vibrates & "thumps" against the prostate offering a more complex and sexy sensation than just vibration alone. 
  3. I has a vibrating external arm for perineum massage, indirectly stimulating the prostate.

Pure Romance Backdoor Toys are popular for their ability to provide intense prostate orgasms. I highly recommend!

In Conclusion

Venturing into prostate orgasms can be an exciting and fulfilling experience. Whether you're exploring alone or with a partner, remember to communicate openly, take your time, and above all, enjoy the journey of pleasure and discovery.


xo, J

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